Life was simpler then. Love and family life. Man had a career and woman stayed home and took care of the kids. Actually, it was this way: they fell in love, got married and had kids. Or they fell in love. An accident happened. Had a kid. Had to get married. Just another variation. But marriage was always “the choice”.
Today it’s more complicated. There are more choices. A typical one might look like this: fall in love, fear commitment, cool-off, explore other partners, take a break, finish college, fall in love again, break-up, establish own business, date (un)exclusively, fall in love, splitsville once more, tour Europe for business ideas, settle for current partner, get married or better yet, live in for awhile, baby planning, have that kid finally, work hard, expand business, not happy with sex life, contemplate on divorce/separation, focus on the kid…
And that’s just the man’s ‘cycle’. Women have to consider their biological clock, careers (whether to stay home or stay at work), child-raising, home management, stress reduction, weight issues, PTAs, sex life or the lack of it, reproductive health…
Gosh, one could go crazy just reading this. No wonder there’s a lot of designer drugs available to calm you down or get you high. We live in a complex world. Why did it get this way in the first place? We are fraught with too many choices. Pick the wrong choice and you can go to hell. Even parenting is complicated. Just look at the selection of parenting books available.
Now I ask you again, why did it get this way? Maybe the problem is we want it all.
photo: by evelyn arthur richman
Interesting isn’t it? During the time of my parents, marriage was always part of the plan and usually the marriage would last a lifetime. Divorces were rare cases; it will be a big thing or gossip when it happened to someone you know. However, nowadays, it is so different. Marriage does not necessary has to happen and divorces are common. I had heard my brother mentions once that he attended a friend’s wedding and one year later, his friend had gotten a divorce. But it is not all negative, I still hear a lot of happy marriages that are going strong. I intend to be one of the positive cases.
Well, life is boring if it’s perfect, anyway.
Great post!
it’s getting complicated. Life that is.
What can we do?
You either go with the flow or go against it.
So, i guess maybe we do want it all. But having everything sometimes means nothing.
great post by the way, left me pondering for my life myself
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